The following is an exercise that I started using a few months ago, and have experienced profound results. It takes about 12 seconds to learn how to do this, and even less time to implement it, so you can skip all my blabbering below and just put it into action, OR you can stick with me for a bit if you’re wondering why in the heckI might be writing about a money-attracting exercise or more importantly, why YOU would ever need something like that!
It’s simple. We all have a relationship with money. For some it’s good, for others….not so good.
A BAD relationship with money may actually keep you from bringing more into your life.
How’s Your Relationship with Money?
How can you tell if you have a “good” or “bad” relationship with money?
If you have a great relationship with money, then you have EXACTLY the amount of money you want. You don’t worry, stress or fear about money or the lack of it. If your relationship with money is no bueno, you’ll know because you believe you don’t have enough of it. For some, just reading this paragraph may be painful or frustrating (and you might be cursing me under your breath) …THIS is also a good indication that your money-relationship could use some work.
As I write this, I’m reminded of a successful entrepreneurial friend who used to spend his nights playing in illegal poker games. He shared with me his mind-blowing experiences of having $50,000 or more slip through his fingers in a matter of minutes. He confessed that seeing how quickly money can come in and out definitely changed his relationship with money. Today he sees it as much easier to flow in.
How I Changed My Relationship with Money
I grew up with a very interesting relationship with money. My parents worked their tails off to throw me into an expensive private school in one of the wealthiest areas in the country. Even though my parents made good money, I was still the poor kid. I was immersed into a world of vacation homes, big yachts, and Bentley’s…all of which I could only enjoy through the friendships of my classmates.
This is one of the greatest things that ever happened to me.
Very early on, it created a desire within me to dream bigger. I immediately saw what was possible for me, and I never thought that I was not deserving. And being the “poor kid,” I had the pleasure of not being spoiled or engrained into thinking that I deserve everything to be handed to me on a silver platter.
In short, I figured out that working hard, working smart and dreaming big would pay off.
It does pay off…however as an entrepreneur, there comes a time when you begin to really question and evaluate money and your relationship to it.
For me, I quickly found it hard to let go of “my” money. I worked so hard to earn it, yet with the swipe of a piece of plastic, it’s gone!
That didn’t sit well with me. In fact, I could literally find myself sick to my stomach when making a purchase of $50 or more.
All of that changed when my relationship with money began to change. Today, I see money like a river. NOT a dam. You need to let money flow in and out. You can imagine a tiny creek that travels slowly and has a chance of drying up, or you can visualize Niagara Falls. One has a lot more force and power behind it, the other dries up in Summer.
So for me, I had to quickly be “ok” with the idea of letting my money flow out (so more could flow in!)
Here is the POWERFUL little exercise I started doing to help that.
Every time you make a transaction or pay for something, try to imagine where that money will go as you send it out, and imagine how it will be used by others. The more you visualize and grasp how your transaction is directly impacting others, the more empowered you’ll feel. Yes, that’s it, super simple.
This morning I ate breakfast at one of my favorite local spots. The total came out to $13.26. As I swiped my card, I imagined how that money will help to pay the hourly wages for the super helpful and friendly “barista,” and the cooks who prepared my food. I know that with that paycheck, those employees will be able to feed their families, pay their bills and provide a roof over their heads. I also know that my transaction helps to keep the economy going, and the restaurant staff now has more money to spend with other businesses who will now profit more. I also know that a portion of my bill goes to the rent of the building we are in, and even keeping this place in business so I can come back again and again.
The more you imagine and visualize it, the better!
When I do this, I not only feel good about spending money, I feel empowered. And that’s the point.
I’m not saying you need to spend more money to make more money (well…maybe I am). I’m not saying you should throw away your fiscal responsibilities. You have things you NEED to pay for (bills, taxes, rent, etc). But you have a CHOICE on how you feel when you make those transactions.
You can feel crappy when you spend your money (which keeps you in a place of lack and negativity) or you can feel awesome when you spend money (and stay in a place of abundance and positivity).
Don’t knock it until you try it…and I suggest you try it now!